Questions to Ask in Arrange Marriage’s Rishta Meeting to Prospective Groom

Arranged marriage is one of the great traditions of Indian culture. Going for an arranged marriage is slightly stressful; you have to decide the person whom with you spends your whole life with, in one or two meetings. The most interesting part in arranged marriage is the first meeting of boy and girl. The moment can be quite nerve wracking and awkward for both boy and girl.

What do I ask? This is the most difficult question you have to solve before your Rishta meeting in an arranged marriage. You have to ask questions to get to know the other person and give your answers to express your expectations. Before selecting questions to ask, you have to decide what kind of partner you want. Do you want a husband with similar interests to you? Or are you looking for someone with least in common, believes in the “opposites attract” theory?

As an attempt to make this easier, we present you some questions to ask the guy, to know him better.

Some Warm Up Questions

This one will be a great icebreaker. You could ask about his hobbies, favorite foods, places he has traveled to, his likes, dislikes and so on. These types of questions will help you find some common interest between you two.

Why He Prefers an Arranged Marriage?

After the warm up session, you could gently make the discussion a bit serious. This question will help you figure out what makes him believe in arranged marriage. Sometimes he might be a person who doesn’t believe in love marriage or too shy to initiate a love affair or because of pressure from family and friends.

What Does a Typical Day in His Life Look Like?

In love marriage, here is an advantage since the couple has already known to each other for a long period, there is a proper understanding of their lifestyle. Most arranged marriage couples find it difficult to adjust to their partner’s behavior. So, this question is a necessary one. Let him explain how he spends a typical day of his life so that you could get a chance to know what you are going to deal with.

Will He Choose to Stay with His Family or Not?

If he is an only son the parents, he preferably stays with his parents. He will be expecting you to take care of his parents also. In some cases even though there are more siblings, they prefer to stay as a joint family. So, before deciding your life partner a question regarding this choice of preference will give you an idea about the family atmosphere.

Ask About His Friends

Men always keep their friendship alive, even after marriage. Unlike girl’s friendship, boys usually prefer meeting and traveling with their friends. So, it is a good idea to know his circle of friends so that you can make him happy by treating his friends with a good hospitality.

What He Looks for In a Potential Life Partner?

Now comes the big one. This is a very deep question and in the answer lies your future. In most arranged marriage meetings, this is a common question so he might have already prepared for this. Listen to him, check whether his answer is a by-hearted one or it’s only about ‘HIM’. So, don’t forget to ask him some counter questions.

What Is His Family Like?

In any marriage, the main issue faced by the husband is to balance things between his wife and mother. But in most cases, he fails to do that. Also, as mentioned earlier, if he has a joint family you must make a good relationship with all his family members. So, it is good to ask him in advance about what his family expects from his wife.

Ask About His Hard Limits

So far if he has maintained a good impression, you could explore him a little more. Ask some questions to know his hard limits. Is there something he can never adjust to? Or you can ask about his views on drinking, smoking and one-night stands etc. Make sure that you don’t make the situation too uncomfortable for him. You can also share your hard limits with him so that you don’t need to compromise on those things after marriage.

Religious Beliefs

Now this one is a very private question. One’s relationship with god is their private choice, nobody can interfere that. But if you and your family are very religious, then you can ask about his views also.

So, ladies these are some points you should cover in your first conversation with the guy during a Rishta meeting in an arranged marriage. Trust your vibes, if it’s positive throughout the session, then you have met the right one. Also don’t be judgmental, since you are not buying a spouse of your desires. You are looking for a compatible life partner, so give their views equal value and consideration.